The Power of No by James Altucher and Claudia Azula Altucher
Know the power of a small word.
In two words,
In The Power of No, it has been told how a small word 'No' can give a new look to our life. With the help of this book, you can learn to say no to those things which are not good for you and can start a new life in your life.
Who is it for?
- Those who simply say yes.
- Those who are unable to pay attention to their needs.
- Those who want to know about the power and necessity of saying no.
About the Author,
James Altucher is an American hedge fund manager, entrepreneur, and author. He is the founder of 20 companies in which there is also a StockPickr.
Claudia Azula Altucher is a yoga teacher and a writer. She is the wife of James Altuscher. Some of his books are Become an idea machine and 21 Things You Need to Know Before Starting Yoga.
Why should you read this book?
Know the power of a small word.
Do you hesitate to say no?
Do you always forget your own needs in meeting the needs of others?
If so, then you have to make a habit of saying no. There are many benefits to saying no. You can focus on yourself by saying no to others. You can make room for good relationships by saying no to bad relationships. Saying no also keeps your health good and when you learn to say no to many things then it will be easier for you to say yes to yourself. With the help of this book, you will learn about all these things and learn how much power is in a small word. How can we build good relationships by saying no to bad relationships? How saying no can bring peace and tranquility in our life. How can you find happiness by being thankful for everything?
Ch1: By saying no to bad relationships, you can make a place for good relationships.
Do you sometimes do some things that are killing you from inside? Are you living with people you don't want to be with? If yes, then now is the time to say no to them. Take your life decisions wisely.
Stay away from people who reduce your energy or happiness. If someone becomes the reason for your unhappiness, then leave it. Here are the things you can do to spot bad relationships. Make a list of all the people with whom you spend your precious time.
Now give all you people a number between 1 to 10. If you enjoy spending time with a special person, then give him the number 10 and if you hate someone, then number 1. Now spend more and more time with those people whom you have given more than 8 numbers and completely leave those people whom you have given less than 5. Spend some time with the rest of you.
This way you can make room for good relationships by saying no to bad relationships. Relationships are so that we can lay our heads on their shoulders when we are sad. But if those same relationships become the reason for your unhappiness, then it is better to leave them.
Ch 2: If you don't like something, don't do it.
If you will always think about the needs of others and work for them, then you will not be able to take care of your own needs. That's why it is better that you say no to the work that you do not want to do.
You are the most unique in this world. No one else was born with a thumb impression like you. If you cannot become Mukesh Ambani, then Mukesh Ambani also cannot become 'you'. That's why you have every right to take your own decisions and do not do things that you do not want to do. If you do any work without a heart, then it can become a cause of sorrow for you. In such a situation it is better that you do not do that work.
If you think that saying no to you will hurt the other person, then think of something like this. Suppose you need someone's help but he doesn't want to help you. Would you like someone to do your work with care? No.
Rather you will feel that you have become a burden to him. At the same time, you may also feel that the person is angry with you because you are getting him to do his work.
Now that you have said no to others, it is time to think about yourself. If you are not able to decide what to do then you go to a library and read different types of books. You read those books in which you are interested. By doing this you can find your way.
Ch 3: Always focus your attention on good things and say no to everything else.
There are words of a pessimist - half the glass is empty. The words of an optimist are - the glass is half full.
You can even go above optimism if you just focus on water and think that this much water will quench your thirst.
Simply put, focus on what you have. Don't think about what you don't have. If you are upset because you are not getting a promotion, then be happy thinking that at least you have a job. Concentrate on what you have and are thankful for. By doing this you can be happy.
Apart from this, focus on the things that bother you. If you have seen a car accident in the news and it is bothering you that you may not have an accident tomorrow, then turn off the TV and go for a walk somewhere. If you ignore the noise around you, you will be able to hear your inner voice.
This will give you peace and you will be able to understand the people around you better. If you want to find peace, then you have to keep a little eye on everyone around you. You will see that you are able to understand those people better and feel their discomfort or loneliness.
Ch 4: You can increase your ability to say yes by saying no.
Till now we have seen how we can get happiness by saying no to the small things in our life. In this lesson, we will see how we can increase our power to say yes.
The power of yes is made up of three things:
- The ability to pay attention to the things for which you are thankful.
- Understanding the feelings and opinions of others.
- To divert attention from those things that hurt us.
You can increase your ability to say yes by being thankful for everything. For this, you do this work. First, make a list of the things that bother you. In this, you can write all the things that you want but are not able to achieve or write those things that annoy you.
Now make a list of the things that you have and are thankful for. Every day thinks of 10 things that you have that make you happy. By doing this, you will be able to focus your attention on the good things and say no to the things that bother you. To increase your power of saying yes, pay attention to the needs of your body inside and outside.
If you are feeling lazy, then go for a walk. If you are confused then listen to the song. If you are under stress then meditate and if you do not understand what to do then you read books.
In this way, taking care of the needs of your body, you can say no to bad things and say yes to good things and bring it into your life and give it a new look.
Overall, saying no can prove to be very beneficial for us, we can build good relationships by saying no to bad relationships. We can focus on our own needs by saying no to the needs of others. By saying no to noise, we can listen to our inner voice and we can increase our happiness by saying no to our troubles.
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